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Should I Reconcile?

Making the decision to get divorced is not easy. It is common to have doubt, or maybe even lingering feelings for your spouse. These things can make it hard to come to the conclusion to end your marriage, and may give you reason for pause. Before filing for divorce, make sure it is the right answer for you.

Staying in an unsatisfactory marriage can cause more harm than good, but to make sure divorce is the answer you should give the issue careful consideration. Some food for thought when making the decision to end your marriage includes the following things:

● Is there a chance the issues that are creating the unhappiness can be resolved?
● Are both parties to the marriage unhappy? If so then divorce is likely the answer. But, if only one of the parties is feeling dissatisfied there is a possibility that with a renewed commitment and work those feelings might change.
● Have you and your spouse tried everything? Have you had open and honest communication about your emotions, and have you talked it over with a professional?

Once you are able to determine the reasons for getting divorced are valid, the process will be easier. Divorce cases are not fun and can be a real drain on your personal finances and your emotions. We work hard to make your case go smoothly and with as little conflict as possible. It benefits you to come into the case after having explored all your options and making sure divorce is right for you. We can help you talk through the issues that are causing your concern, and give you the information you need for an educated decision.

For more information about divorce and reconciliation, call our office. Our attorneys are qualified to assist you with all the issues that are important to you. Contact the Chicago Law Offices of Curtis Bennett Ross, LLC today to schedule an appointment.

Reconciliation Rather That Dissolution

Not every divorce case that gets filed ends up finalized. There are instances where the parties decide to reconcile their marriage rather than dissolve their union. Sometimes the divorce process results in the parties taking a second look at their relationship and making the decision to stay together. Divorce can be stressful, but also provide significant insights into the reasons why the decision to end a marriage were made. When that happens it is not uncommon for people to have a change of heart and decide to make things work. Most often this happens when the family is involved in therapy during their divorce, but changing your mind about the split should only be done after careful consideration.

Reconciliation during divorce requires an understanding of what the couple believed to be irreconcilable differences. Some helpful tips for successfully switching gears during your case include:
● Identifying the things that led to the decision to seek a divorce, and then participating in open and honest communication about those issues.
● Stepping up to accept responsibility for your role, when and where appropriate.
● Letting go of the past and accepting it cannot be changed.
● Forgiving your spouse for things that have caused hurt feelings, and moving past the need to be a victim rather than a survivor.

Trained therapists and counselors can provide the tools needed to deal with the issues that led to divorce. When both parties are willing to work on the relationship and put in the effort needed to reconcile a divorce can change course. The legal maneuvers needed to undo what’s been started vary from case to case. It is critical to keep your divorce attorney in the loop so your interests are protected. Call our office today for more information.

For more information on reconciliation during divorce, call an experienced family law attorney today. Call the Chicago Law Offices of Curtis Bennett Ross, LLC to schedule an appointment and learn more.

Can Divorce Lead To Reconciliation?

It may not make sense or seem logical, but sometimes filing for divorce can actually lead to reconciliation. The full weight of what it means to end your marriage may not be completely felt until you file, or are served with divorce papers. In some instances, this act can cause the parties to reconsider the decision to divorce, and end in participation in helpful tools to keep the marriage intact.

When a couple decides to work together to save their marriage after having filed for divorce, the following suggestions provide the framework within which reconciliation is made possible:

● Be patient: your marriage did not deteriorate to the point of divorce overnight, nor will it be fixed by the morning.

●    Explore alternate forms of communication: when a couple files for divorce, their communication is likely severely lacking. If you are going to repair the problems that caused one or both parties to desire divorce, new ways to interact must be explored.

●      Go to counseling: a trained therapist or counselor acts as a neutral party, gives you methods of communication, and makes suggestions at ways you can improve your relationship.

Filing for divorce can be the motivating factor that causes both parties dedicates themselves to resolving their differences. For many people, it is difficult to let go without first trying all they can to reconcile. We believe therapy is beneficial before, during, and after a divorce. Our goals are to help your family make decisions that considers the well-being of every member, and results in solutions that are healthy.

For answers to your questions about divorce and possible reconciliation, call a qualified family law professional. Contact the Chicago Law Offices of Curtis Bennett Ross, LLC. Call us today to schedule an appointment to discuss the specific facts of your case.

Can I Change My Mind?

Making the decision to dissolve your marriage does not have to be final. Even if you are in the middle of a hotly contested case, reconciliation can happen. Making up with your spouse and putting the brakes on your case is allowed. However, it is advisable to proceed with caution in these circumstances. The emotional trauma created by filing divorce is not easily forgotten or healed. It takes time and a lot of effort to change gears, but with the help of trained professionals can be accomplished.

Therapists and counselors offer advice on how to reconcile during divorce. Some of the key components to a successful reconciliation in the middle of a divorce case include:

● Engaging in honest communication about the issues that led to the divorce, and how the future will be different.

● Acknowledging your role in the relationship rather than being a victim.

● Leave the past in the past and let go of previous hurts.

A skilled counselor or therapist can help you and your spouse get to the root of your problems, and find ways to fix what went wrong. Filing for divorce does not eliminate the possibility of reconciliation, and the choice is yours. Our goal is to handle your case in a way that is satisfactory to you, and gets to an end result that works. Whether by finalizing your case, or supporting your decision to change course, we can help.

For more information on reconciliation during divorce, call an experienced family law attorney today. Call the Chicago Law Offices of Curtis Bennett Ross, LLC to schedule an appointment and learn more.

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